a foretaste …

photo credit here”olivia  extends her hands to me  when she doesn’t feel well or when she wants to just be close to me.  she  trusts that i will respond  to her — that i will take care of her every need.  she has a complete understanding that i will...

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Happy Birthday

happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday sweet Bane … “my Jesus, come quickly.” these words, poured from broken hearts on a hard day. grief catches in throat, stops breath, looms hard on the road ahead … but God. His word is true — even in this....

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The Bane Bane Game: Friending It Forward

Livi and Baney: bathtime smooches “Mama,” said Livi, placing one tiny finger to her dimpled cheek.  Splats of green jello smeared high chair tray before her, but she leaned in earnest, like one who knows a secret. “Bane Bane is my best friend.” these words …...

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Chasing a Banebow

image credit here It’s not the  Iron Man championship. It’s not the Tour de France. But it is a celebration of  one special little boy who would have turned one year old on October 23, 2010 … a boy who will touch the lives of others  for years to...

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a secret admirer …

photo credit here cemeteries aren’t for  smiling. crying?  absolutely. sniffling?  sure. tearing out of hair and gnashing of teeth?   I can imagine. but not smiling.  except for  this one day … night, actually. I was, clichéd but true, “in the neighborhood,” attending visitation at a funeral home...

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