Sweet Baby Bane has a birthday.

Notice the verb.

Not sweet Baby Bane had a birthday, he has one.

It’s October 23rd.  And it will always be his.

Now, the look of that day has changed this year.  Plans that were being brainstormed around — the theme (maybe a jungle theme, to match his favorite night night …),  the outfit he’d wear (the boy dressed to the nines, like his daddy), the cake (oh, the cake.  that boy loved him some cake!) — all of these have changed.

Because of the way his story has changed, there will be things lost.  The video of him toddling around with his little buddies, of him liking the wrapping paper more than the gifts, the hundreds of photos of his milestone very first “cake face,”  all of those have vanished, are on the long list of “things we won’t enjoy with him this side of heaven.” it’s a list that will grow longer with time, and it grieves his mama’s soul, y’all.  it grabs his daddy by the throat sometimes.

but there is one list that will be even longer — much longer — for his birthday this year:

the guest list.

because if you’re reading this, you’re invited.
and your mama’s invited.  and your brother and your sister and that third cousin twice removed of yours who you only see at Thanksgiving.  they’re all invited.Bane has a birthday, and this year that day will be an emotional one.

And Sonya and Drason are showing, as they have shown every day since Bane’s death, that they will face pain with great courage, that they will  spin sorrow into something Bane would have been proud of.

They have determined that when life hands you gut-wrenching, you can do one of two things:

1.  you can run, scared


2.  you can organize a run.

I am pleased to announce, here in this space, the latter:

The Banebow 5k Fun Run/Walk

October 23, 2010

9:00 a.m.

If you live in the Middle Tennessee area, or if you don’t, but you’ve always wanted to see the leaves change in one of the most beautiful areas in the South, grab your Converse and head on over.

You don’t have to have fancy pants running gear.  You don’t have to have a long trail of race medals, or even any history with running at all.

In fact, if you want to walk the entire five kilometers  holding the hand of your own toddling babe, well that would make us smile real big.  All you need are some comfortable shoes and a heart for a great cause.

Because it’s more than an athletic event — it’s a celebration. Not the celebration that we had originally planned, but a celebration in the belief that what God plans is always good.  And that celebrating the sweet soul  of someone so loved doesn’t end when heartbeat is silenced.

You can register online by clicking over here. If you’d prefer to register by mail, or if you have any questions about the event, shoot us an email at

All proceeds from the event will go to helping Banebow continue its mission of honoring Bane’s memory by being the hands and feet of Christ to those who are hurting.

So head on over and register todayand tell your friends. You can run it.  You can walk it.  Heck, you can hop it, if you want.  Just don’t skip it.


  1. Matt and Shelley Pevahouse

    Won't miss it!

  2. christy

    Planning on this for sure!!!!

  3. Kimberly Unland

    I'll be there with my running shoes on! I may even bring my little one out for her first race.

  4. Ashley Sanders

    We will be there!!! Kyle had me running at the lake today trying to get me ready for Bane's party:)

  5. Audrey Chamberlain

    We are friends of Drason's from Dickson. We signed up and will be there!

  6. Courtney

    sonya and drason,
    lifted you up all day in prayer. i know today has been hard.
    briley came in tonite talking about this big rainbow and that she saw the whole thing and her and her friends stopped to look and talk about it.
    a rainbow for bane. a rainbow on a day that we remember bane.
    a rainbow on a day that we needed the reminder that God is with us, that He loves us and cares deeply for us.
    so glad you saw it too. crazy that miles away we saw a rainbow together.
    God is good.
    we love you,
    court and bri