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"Flight to Heaven" by the talented Emily Wierenga   Belinda Carlisle got it wrong. Kenny Chesney thumbed his nose at it, too. Even the fancy-footed Fred Astaire totally missed the mark. Turn on the TV?   You'll find advertisers like Red Bull and Angel Soft...

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a Banebow 5k birthday card …

Dear  birthday boy Bane, did you know that  your birthday was really special this year? that you had a party ... and all your little buddies came ...   and lots of other people, too ... and they  wore silly hats ...  (even your Grandmother and...

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when the rollercoaster tips downward …

photo credit here can we have  an honest moment? can i be real, even if it's not pretty? because this week is hard.  soul-deep hard.  on-my-face hard. i remember being ten years old, gangly-kneed, wide-eyed, and fearless.  chasing the shadow of my...

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Happy Birthday

happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday sweet Bane ... "my Jesus, come quickly." these words, poured from broken hearts on a hard day. grief catches in throat, stops breath, looms hard on the road ahead ... but God. His word is true -- even in...

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why i write here: soul-friend petites (part three)

soul-friend petites sharing a giggle[if you're just joining this series, be sure to check out the first two parts here and here] i thought i had told the whole story. i wrote and i wrote, trying to connect the dots and say it clear:  why i come here  to this...

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why i write here: lover of my soul-friend (part two)

Drae and Livi Drae:  he carries her, but she has him wrapped[to read the first part of this series, click here.] If I had no other reason to love Drason Beasley, I would still love him fully, solely for the way that he has loved -- and continues to love -- my...

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why i write here: a soul-friend story (part one)

hello, Banebow friends.   Sonya and I were chatting and decided it was time to "peek-a-boo" out from behind the curtain of the Banebow blog.  I'm glad that she meant a virtual peek-a-boo, so that I don't have to worry about how sad my hair looks today...

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The Bane Bane Game: Friending It Forward

Livi and Baney: bathtime smooches "Mama," said Livi, placing one tiny finger to her dimpled cheek.  Splats of green jello smeared high chair tray before her, but she leaned in earnest, like one who knows a secret. "Bane Bane is my best friend." these words ......

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Chasing a Banebow

image credit here It's not the  Iron Man championship. It's not the Tour de France. But it is a celebration of  one special little boy who would have turned one year old on October 23, 2010 ... a boy who will touch the lives of others  for...

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a secret admirer …

photo credit here cemeteries aren’t for  smiling. crying?  absolutely. sniffling?  sure. tearing out of hair and gnashing of teeth?   I can imagine. but not smiling.  except for  this one day … night, actually. I was, clichéd but true, “in the neighborhood,” attending...

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